Turning My "Have-to"s into Choices 👘
Mar 10, 2022
It’s an easy mistake to throw out all 'have-to's in the name of love-authoring. For good reason: In surrendering more deeply to love, I've see how many of the motivations driving my ‘have-to's are based on fear and false assumptions. Do I really 'have to' send this weekly email? Dress a certain way? Uphold commitments that don’t ‘feel’ good in the moment?
Don’t answer that just yet. A universal no is just as stuck as a universal yes. I'm careful not to trade the king’s robes 👘 for monks robes; codependency for counterdependency; and call it freedom. I'm expunging any sense of disempowerment or victimhood, without cutting off mystery. I'm learning to claim whatever I do as my choice, including my obligations. The ‘Have-to’s are mine. But so are the 'letting go's. I'm done abdicating the responsibility of my choosing love.
Read next: "...Choose it or change it"
With love, Jordan
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