Self-Awareness & Alignment 🎚

 (this post can be read as one of three parts. Read the whole thing here) 

This week I noticed how often I describe Relatefulness from the perspective of an individual’s experience in a relationship. This frame makes a lot of sense; it’s quickly accessible experientially.

From this view, relational mindfulness helps us explore a nearly infinite array of questions like: What are my blindspots? What am I responsible for here? Can I change so the we/world changes? Can I love what is? How can I find peace, no matter what, without bypassing? Where do I abandon myself, when I could bring more of me into the relating? Where do I withdraw or dissociate, when I could stay present to more discomfort—and gain more insight, freedom, and acceptance? What unconscious rules and norms am I following in groups—and thereby upholding? How can I skillfully choose differently or surrender more fully? How am I reifying my whole sense of “I” in the first place? How can that be transcended? How can “I” be of deeper service for the divine?

More individual presence around relating is awesome, but it’s not the whole picture. It relegates us to the realm of the personal. It doesn’t address many of the confusing aspects of being a human, or the ways that being relateful can innovate and help us in our infinite interdependence.

With love, Jordan