Deconstructing the protective logic of guarding our joy 😊

For many, it’s vulnerable to get excited: What if we don’t get what we want? But if you don’t get your desire, you’ll likely be disappointed anyway. Isn’t it better to have felt excitement and disappointment, rather than just disappointment? For most situations your excitement doesn’t have any negative impact on whether or not you get what you want. 

All defenses do what they would defend; a powerful shadow concept we go into depth about working with in the Relateful Coaching Training (starting in September).

This simple logic doesn’t address historical layers of payoffs for staying guarded; personal or societal uniquenesses; the role of awareness in being able to choose; and how you embody this in challenging times—but instead helps make subjective experiences objects we can see. Sometimes, just being able to name something reveals a freedom to choose how we express it.

With love, Jordan