Extreme Love Leads to Extreme Ownership 🧡

If you're like me, you occasionally blame others for how you feel or how a relationship is going. You may also notice that for some strange reason when you try to bring it up with the others, things get worse ;). The usual (good) advice for a better experience is to go looking for what's going on in you, and how you can take more "ownership" — claim more responsibility. Bonus if you can do so while feeling compassion for yourself. But I recently found something a little more convincing to my heart. When I go into extreme love, including loving myself extremely, the ownership comes naturally. I notice that people show up differently in response to love (surprise eh?), and the blame story gets less and less convincing. Even if the other person has been a jerk, when they stop being a jerk in response to love, it's the ultimate empowerment. This speaks to the adage "if you want others to change, change yourself".

With love, Jordan