Upgrade Your Defenses? 🪖

Relatefulness isn’t about getting rid of defenses and being vulnerable all the time. It’s about being more honest with the whole, including being honest about when we suddenly don’t feel safe (even with someone we trust deeply) or we don’t think it’s a good idea to be vulnerable (because it isn’t always). Perhaps we’re upgrading our defenses so that we’re more flexible, discerning, responsive, and aware. Like a beautiful animal’s camouflage. Our defenses are usually well honed skills, so let’s honor them. 

With love, Jordan