Loving Boundaries come from self-inclusion 🩶
Sep 26, 2024
It’s easier to be loving and set boundaries from a place of deep empathy and compassion when you know you won’t abandon yourself.
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When I know I’m not going to let my son eat another piece of cake, it’s easy to be compassionate in my no.
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When I know I won’t employ someone that doesn’t meet standards, I can communicate the standards clearly and with empathy.
The confidence I stand behind with what I can’t give allows me to be generous with whatever I can. And whatever I offer conveys the spirit of generosity: I love one particular friend so much I’m willing to hang out once a month! (Rather than apologizing for not being able to hang out more).
A couple assumptions support this: Loving someone doesn’t mean you agree with them. And boundaries are points of connection: Our limits are where we’re able to show up, not where we disconnect.
On the endless journey to this ideal, many of us will make the mistake of over-asserting our autonomy. We’ll probably be too aggressive, too rude, as we learn to trust our ability to stand behind ourselves. Welcome to the club.
With love, Jordan
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